When people have experiences, especially my African people, there is the general assumption that you have to share your experiences with others … you know, so they can learn from your mistakes and take a different route – usually the ones you have judged as best. This ideology comes from a well-meaning yet ignorant heart. Humans generally do this which makes it a very common human nature. So, what does this have to do with anything?
First, let’s see the bible interpretation of this habit.
Exodus 34:7 (KJV) Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation.
Iniquity is the sin against oneself. Transgression is the sin against another. Sin is the ignorance of Self or not knowing who you are. God was talking in this verse … which means … your Awareness of Being transfers his/her guilt upon his/her children and then the children transfers it to their own children. By the fourth generation, the children would be ready to rebel against their parents ideology. But how does it happen?
… Visiting the iniquity … guilt, regret as a result of past experiences. You regret and you don’t want your loved one on the same path. So you tell them what and what not to do and by focusing on such regrets, you create even more of the regrets.
If you’ve been following my blog and posts, you would realise by now that there is no God outside of yourself. If you are new to my blog … o boy.
People who have had, not just a good experience of life, but the freedom to experience themselves as who they say they are, don’t have this problem. However, the majority of us want to say, ‘Hey, I’ve been there, done that. It doesn’t turn out well. You should do something else’.
You don’t need to manipulate anyone’s life based on your own experiences.Emi’el
There is nothing wrong with the statement above. It is well-meaning and thoughtful … ignorant still … but thoughtful. There is nothing wrong with the statement above because it is merely a suggestion. There is no enforcement of your experience upon another. There is only an observation and expression of your experience. This is usually my approach when sharing my knowledge.
But why? Why the hell am I talking about experiences?
Here is why: your experiences keeps you locked in, into this dream called life. This dream is real to you because of your experiences. When you have a bad experience, you don’t want your loved one to have the experience so you try to shield them away from it. Of course, in so doing, you are a making a successful transaction with the Law of Attraction which states that your attention on something will cause said thing to increase and multiply. Your blind love creates more pain for you and everyone involved.
Understand this people, you are not here to tell people what to do based on your experience. You are here to experience first, and then share it with others. When you share your experience, it’ll resonate with people who need to learn from it. You don’t need to manipulate anyone’s life based on your own experiences. Let everyone have their own experiences knowing that no experience is good or bad. It just is. Although active involvement with some experiences might cause one to reject the idea of a non-judgmental attitude but this is the truth and the truth never changes. Your judgments however does. A child who once thought been born in a poor family was the worse thing that can ever happen to anyone, now a man, realises that the poverty of his parent made him who he is today. Yesterday it was bad, today it is good. Every experience of life falls under this theme.
If you have truly gotten that, then understand this: to awaken from the dream of life, you must not take your experiences too seriously. Don’t treat it as a do or die affair. You have had an infinite amount of lifetimes solely to have experiences. These experiences you have had and this experience you are having is like a person playing a highly interactive game … like Gta V or something else. Treating the experience like it’s something tangible will only cause more pain and suffering however, simply enjoying the experience will cause you to explore more joyously and hence uncover deep and meaningful things about the Being that you are.
Live your life FULLY with happiness and love and don’t make a big fuss out of it. Even if you’ve the most horrible experiences, it isn’t the truth. If pure happiness, joy, enlightenment, understanding, peace, right thinking … is your goal, there’s no other way.
You are well blessed.